Neurodivergent, what is it?

Neurodivergent is a term we have seen lately. It was actually used for the first time by Judy Singer in 1997. The term was intended to be comparable to the term biodiversity, which refers to the diversity of all living things. Neurodiversity refers to the variety of ways all people think and behave. The term “neurodivergent” refers to individuals whose neurological development and functioning differ from what is considered typical or neurotypical. It recognizes and embraces the natural neurological variations that exist in human beings.

Let’s look at some of the terms and what they mean:

• Neurodivergent: A noun referring to the diversity or variation of cognitive functioning in all people

• Neurodiverse: An adjective typically used to describe neurodivergent people

• Neurodivergence: A noun referring to cognitive functioning which is not considered typical or "normal"

• Neurodivergent: An adjective describing people who have a neurodivergence

• Neurotypical: An adjective describing people whose cognitive and social behaviors fall within traditional norms

Neurodivergent individuals may have different ways of thinking, perceiving, learning, and processing information compared to the majority of the population. Some examples of neurodivergent conditions include autism spectrum disorders, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, dyspraxia, Tourette syndrome, and others.

Neurodivergent individuals often have unique strengths and perspectives that can contribute positively to society. They may excel in areas such as pattern recognition, creativity, problem-solving, attention to detail, and divergent thinking.

The concept of neurodiversity promotes the understanding that neurological differences should be accepted and respected, rather than being pathologized or viewed as disorders that need to be "fixed." It challenges the notion that there is a single "normal" or ideal neurological profile. Instead, it emphasizes the value of embracing and accommodating neurodivergent individuals' needs, promoting inclusivity, and creating environments that support their diverse ways of experiencing the world.

It's important to note that the term "neurodivergent" is primarily used as an umbrella term to encompass a range of neurological differences, and it is ultimately up to individuals to self-identify as neurodivergent based on their personal experiences and diagnoses.

There are some challenges and helpful traits of neurodiverse individuals. Some of the helpful traits include:

1. Ability to stay focused on a topic or activity of interest for long periods

2. Outside-the-box thinking, which can lead to innovative solutions to challenges

3. Strong observational skills and attention to detail

4. Superior ability to recognize patterns, including in codes and behaviors

5. Having strong skills in areas such as music, art, technology, and science

Some of the challenging traits include:

1. Social communication difficulties, such as trouble making eye contact while talking or not reading body language

2. Speech and language challenges, such as stuttering and repetition

3. Learning challenges that may be related to difficulties with focus, reading, calculation, ability to follow spoken language, and/or problems with executive functioning (important skills, including working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control)

4. Unusual responses to sensory input (sensitivity or unusual insensitivity to light, sound, heat, cold, pressure, crowds, and other stimuli)

5. Unusual physical behaviors, such as rocking, expressing tics, blurting things out, and shouting at unexpected times

6. Inflexibility (inability to adapt or to change interests based on age or situation)

It is important to understand neurodiversity and how it can impact a person’s life. The number of people who can be described as neurodivergent is very high, and it is on the rise. Each neurodivergent individual can be very different from each other so it is important to understand the meaning. It is a relatively new concept that is gaining traction and understanding and it helps present neurological differences as normal variations instead of pathological disorders.

What is Depression?

Depression is a mental health disorder characterized by persistent feelings of sadness, emptiness, and a loss of interest or pleasure in activities. It is more than just experiencing occasional sadness or feeling down; depression affects a person's thoughts, emotions, behavior, and overall functioning. Depression is a complex and often misunderstood mental health condition that has become prevalent in today’s society.

Some of the common symptoms of depression are:

1. Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness

2. Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed

3. Changes in appetite

4. Sleep disturbances, such as insomnia or excessive sleeping

5. Fatigue or loss of energy

6. Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt

7. Difficulty concentrating, making decisions, or remembering things.

8. Restlessness, or slowed movements.

9. Recurring thoughts of death or suicide.

Each of these symptoms can vary from person to person. It can be caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental, and psychological factors. Traumatic life events, chronic stress, certain medications, and underlying medical conditions can also contribute to the development of depression. It is treatable through counseling, medication, lifestyle changes, and support from a strong social network.

Counseling is an essential and effective treatment option for individuals dealing with depression. It provides a safe and supportive environment where individuals can openly express their feelings, thoughts, and concerns with a trained professional. Here are some key aspects of counseling for depression:

1. Therapeutic Relationship: Counseling establishes a therapeutic relationship between the individual and the counselor. This relationship is built on trust, empathy, and confidentiality, providing a non-judgmental space for the individual to share their experiences.

2. Emotional Support: Counselors offer emotional support, validating the individual's feelings and experiences. They help individuals explore and understand the underlying causes of their depression, identify triggers, and develop coping strategies.

3. Psychoeducation: Counselors educate individuals about depression, its symptoms, and how it affects their lives. Understanding depression can help individuals gain insight into their experiences and reduce self-blame or stigma.

4. Goal Setting and Problem-Solving: Counselors assist individuals in setting realistic goals and developing strategies to overcome challenges. This can include addressing issues related to relationships, work, self-care, and lifestyle changes that may contribute to depressive symptoms.

5. Supportive Techniques: Counselors may employ various techniques to promote emotional well-being, such as relaxation exercises, mindfulness, stress management, and self-care strategies. These techniques help individuals develop healthy coping mechanisms and manage stress effectively.

It is important to find a qualified and licensed counselor or therapist experienced in working with depression. They can provide personalized guidance and support tailored to the individual's needs. Additionally, counseling can be combined with other treatment approaches, such as medication or lifestyle changes, for comprehensive care.

Remember, seeking counseling for depression is a proactive step towards better mental health. It can provide valuable insights, coping skills, and support necessary to navigate the challenges of depression and work toward recovery.

Teens and Parents

Often times when I meet with parents who have teenagers, their biggest question is, “how do I connect with my teen when they push me away?” It can be difficult to connect to your teens when they are consistently pushing parents away and holed up in their rooms.

During the teen years, teens are moving away from a family-centered world into defining and figuring out their self-identity. They are figuring out who they are, and who they want to be. They are moving away from their parents and developing their own identities. They have to figure out how to navigate their day-to-day lives without the guidance of their parents. They begin to take risks and experiment with different things.

There are no easy answers for parents and parenting, below are some things you can do to help stay connected with your teen.

• The number one thing you can do to stay connected with your teens is, to be honest with them. Use your own experiences with them.

• Know and understand that respect goes both ways.

• Show interest in the things they are interested in.

• Allow your teen to have a bigger role in the family.

• Get to know their friends, have their friends over, and spend time with them and your teen.

• Listen to music together. Many teens love music and they typically listen to music that speaks to them. Get to know the songs, speak to them about the songs and what it means to them.

Spending time with your teen is important. Connecting with them will be difficult and they will push back against parents. Counseling can help bridge this gap between parents and teens. I meet with teens and help them navigate their social relationships and relationship with their parents.

Call or email me today if your teen needs help or if you need help with parenting. Kimberly@tylerteencounseling.com or 903-206-1610.