Neurodivergent, what is it?

Neurodivergent is a term we have seen lately. It was actually used for the first time by Judy Singer in 1997. The term was intended to be comparable to the term biodiversity, which refers to the diversity of all living things. Neurodiversity refers to the variety of ways all people think and behave. The term “neurodivergent” refers to individuals whose neurological development and functioning differ from what is considered typical or neurotypical. It recognizes and embraces the natural neurological variations that exist in human beings.

Let’s look at some of the terms and what they mean:

• Neurodivergent: A noun referring to the diversity or variation of cognitive functioning in all people

• Neurodiverse: An adjective typically used to describe neurodivergent people

• Neurodivergence: A noun referring to cognitive functioning which is not considered typical or "normal"

• Neurodivergent: An adjective describing people who have a neurodivergence

• Neurotypical: An adjective describing people whose cognitive and social behaviors fall within traditional norms

Neurodivergent individuals may have different ways of thinking, perceiving, learning, and processing information compared to the majority of the population. Some examples of neurodivergent conditions include autism spectrum disorders, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, dyspraxia, Tourette syndrome, and others.

Neurodivergent individuals often have unique strengths and perspectives that can contribute positively to society. They may excel in areas such as pattern recognition, creativity, problem-solving, attention to detail, and divergent thinking.

The concept of neurodiversity promotes the understanding that neurological differences should be accepted and respected, rather than being pathologized or viewed as disorders that need to be "fixed." It challenges the notion that there is a single "normal" or ideal neurological profile. Instead, it emphasizes the value of embracing and accommodating neurodivergent individuals' needs, promoting inclusivity, and creating environments that support their diverse ways of experiencing the world.

It's important to note that the term "neurodivergent" is primarily used as an umbrella term to encompass a range of neurological differences, and it is ultimately up to individuals to self-identify as neurodivergent based on their personal experiences and diagnoses.

There are some challenges and helpful traits of neurodiverse individuals. Some of the helpful traits include:

1. Ability to stay focused on a topic or activity of interest for long periods

2. Outside-the-box thinking, which can lead to innovative solutions to challenges

3. Strong observational skills and attention to detail

4. Superior ability to recognize patterns, including in codes and behaviors

5. Having strong skills in areas such as music, art, technology, and science

Some of the challenging traits include:

1. Social communication difficulties, such as trouble making eye contact while talking or not reading body language

2. Speech and language challenges, such as stuttering and repetition

3. Learning challenges that may be related to difficulties with focus, reading, calculation, ability to follow spoken language, and/or problems with executive functioning (important skills, including working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control)

4. Unusual responses to sensory input (sensitivity or unusual insensitivity to light, sound, heat, cold, pressure, crowds, and other stimuli)

5. Unusual physical behaviors, such as rocking, expressing tics, blurting things out, and shouting at unexpected times

6. Inflexibility (inability to adapt or to change interests based on age or situation)

It is important to understand neurodiversity and how it can impact a person’s life. The number of people who can be described as neurodivergent is very high, and it is on the rise. Each neurodivergent individual can be very different from each other so it is important to understand the meaning. It is a relatively new concept that is gaining traction and understanding and it helps present neurological differences as normal variations instead of pathological disorders.

What is Depression?

Depression is a mental health disorder characterized by persistent feelings of sadness, emptiness, and a loss of interest or pleasure in activities. It is more than just experiencing occasional sadness or feeling down; depression affects a person's thoughts, emotions, behavior, and overall functioning. Depression is a complex and often misunderstood mental health condition that has become prevalent in today’s society.

Some of the common symptoms of depression are:

1. Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness

2. Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed

3. Changes in appetite

4. Sleep disturbances, such as insomnia or excessive sleeping

5. Fatigue or loss of energy

6. Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt

7. Difficulty concentrating, making decisions, or remembering things.

8. Restlessness, or slowed movements.

9. Recurring thoughts of death or suicide.

Each of these symptoms can vary from person to person. It can be caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental, and psychological factors. Traumatic life events, chronic stress, certain medications, and underlying medical conditions can also contribute to the development of depression. It is treatable through counseling, medication, lifestyle changes, and support from a strong social network.

Counseling is an essential and effective treatment option for individuals dealing with depression. It provides a safe and supportive environment where individuals can openly express their feelings, thoughts, and concerns with a trained professional. Here are some key aspects of counseling for depression:

1. Therapeutic Relationship: Counseling establishes a therapeutic relationship between the individual and the counselor. This relationship is built on trust, empathy, and confidentiality, providing a non-judgmental space for the individual to share their experiences.

2. Emotional Support: Counselors offer emotional support, validating the individual's feelings and experiences. They help individuals explore and understand the underlying causes of their depression, identify triggers, and develop coping strategies.

3. Psychoeducation: Counselors educate individuals about depression, its symptoms, and how it affects their lives. Understanding depression can help individuals gain insight into their experiences and reduce self-blame or stigma.

4. Goal Setting and Problem-Solving: Counselors assist individuals in setting realistic goals and developing strategies to overcome challenges. This can include addressing issues related to relationships, work, self-care, and lifestyle changes that may contribute to depressive symptoms.

5. Supportive Techniques: Counselors may employ various techniques to promote emotional well-being, such as relaxation exercises, mindfulness, stress management, and self-care strategies. These techniques help individuals develop healthy coping mechanisms and manage stress effectively.

It is important to find a qualified and licensed counselor or therapist experienced in working with depression. They can provide personalized guidance and support tailored to the individual's needs. Additionally, counseling can be combined with other treatment approaches, such as medication or lifestyle changes, for comprehensive care.

Remember, seeking counseling for depression is a proactive step towards better mental health. It can provide valuable insights, coping skills, and support necessary to navigate the challenges of depression and work toward recovery.

What Self-Care Really Means

We have all heard that we need to practice self-care.  You can google self-care and find over 5 billion searches on self-care.  Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions on what self-care is.  But what is self-care and why is it important and how do you practice it?

According to the National Institute of Health, self-care means taking time to do things that help you live well and improve your physical and mental health.  Ultimately, the goal of self-care is to lower or manage your stress and anxiety, increase your energy, and lower your risk of illness.  Self-care can also boost your self-esteem and help you build better relationships.

Some may think self-care is selfish or choosing yourself over others.  Self-care is actually the opposite.  It is setting yourself up to be the best version of yourself that you can be.  It means accepting help when you need it and not overextending yourself by trying to impress people or “do it all”.  We all need help, and it can be good for your mental and physical health to ask for it.

Self-care is about nurturing yourself and your passions and honoring your mind, body, and spirit.  Everybody’s self-care will look different.  Giving yourself 5 minutes to 30 minutes a day to focus on yourself is imperative.  Self-care is caring about yourself and believing that you are enough and that you deserve to be treated kindly by you! 

There are many forms of self-care and countless ways you can find the self-care that works for you.  Here are some questions to ask yourself to find what kind of self-care you need. 

·      What feelings come up when you think about self-care?

·      What hesitations do you have about engaging in self-care?

·      What are some of your passions?

·      What have you been putting off that you really want to do?

·      Where do you find most of your stress comes from?

·      What brings you joy?

Sitting and being thoughtful while answering these questions can help guide you to what you need in your life.  If you still struggle with self-care you are not alone!  Don’t try and do this yourself and seek help from a trusted friend or counselor.  This may be the exact self-care that you need at this moment. 

Anxiety and Teens

Anxiety can look differently in adolescents than in children or adults.  Many times, adolescents have different things that trigger their anxiety.  Let’s first look at what anxiety is.  According to the American Psychological Association anxiety is defined as, “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts, and physical changes like increased blood pressure.  Many times, it comes in the form of intrusive thoughts, worries, and concerns.  Sometimes anxiety can be beneficial, it can help us become aware of certain dangers or help us prepare and pay attention in different situations. 

 With adolescents, anxiety can cause them to begin wanting to avoid people or situations that trigger or worsen their anxiety.  Oftentimes, this is school, social activities, and even family. They tend to have significant anxiety surrounding feeling embarrassed, humiliated, rejected, or looked down on.   Anxiety in adolescents is common with 1 in 3 experiencing a form of anxiety disorder.  Teens experiencing anxiety can also experience depression, self-harm, and substance use.  Some of the signs that your teen may be experiencing anxiety are changes in behavior, irritability, avoiding activities, school avoidance, grades dropping, trouble sleeping or concentrating, chronic stomach pain, headaches, and fatigue. 

 Some of the things that parents can do are talk to their teens about their anxiety.  Have an open dialogue with them about what it feels like to them.  If you asked 50 teens what anxiety feels like to them, you will get 50 different answers.  So, find out what the experience is like for your teen.  Validate and empathize with them, but do not dismiss their worries or anxieties.  Seek outside help if needed from your teen’s pediatrician or a counselor.  Ask them what they prefer!  Be there to support them as they work through this, but don’t do it alone!